QUESTION: On my last day of high school, I was diagnosed with a tumor. What was it like going through college with cancer? Anything you have to say will be helpful, I haven’t really talked to anyone who was in a similar situation. Thank you! -WORRIED SICK
Dear Worried,
Going through college with cancer is an extremely unique situation. On the one hand, you’re still a kid. You’re probably still on your parents’ health care plan, you probably still want to hug your mom when things go wrong (heck, I still want to do that and I’m way past college), and you’ve never been out on your own before. On the other hand, you’re finished with high school, you’re ready to move on to the next phase, and you want to keep up with all of your friends and life moves forward. What to do?
The answer will depend greatly on WHEN you are diagnosed and start treatment. If you are diagnosed before you start or early freshman year, you may need to defer school. If you are diagnosed later, once you have gotten significantly into college, as I was, you may be able to finish your current classes before deciding to take off a semester.
Either way, you will need to explain to your friends, professors, and school administrators what is going on. This is, obviously, easier with people that you know well, since you know how they’re going to react. However, what I found was that everyone was really accepting about the cancer. They all wanted to be helpful and do everything they could to make sure I was okay. New friends got super worried and ran out to buy me stuffed animals because they didn’t know what else to do. My adviser became immediately responsive and arranged for me to meet with the dean and explained how to get the best outcomes for my classes and things. Since everything was so surreal to me, it was great how everyone, even those I knew not-quite-as-well, wanted to help.
Of note, I’ve found that people don’t tend to gossip about things like cancer, which is both awesome and super annoying. This meant that when I was first diagnosed, I had to tell every single person individually, which was quite difficult. But, it also means that if you don’t tell someone, there is a high likelihood that they don’t know and it won’t affect how they see you.
Are you going through college with cancer? What was most/least surprising for you?
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